Before we get to the lies, let’s start with the truth: Trying to get pregnant can suck. Sure, you get to do *that* with the person you love, but I don’t think I’m alone in saying that once you start trying to conceive, it’s hard to keep the thought of starting a family from completely overwhelming you. If we’re being completely honest here, trying to conceive (often referred to as TTC) can become a chore that takes the fun aspect out of sex.
As much as I try otherwise, there are a few lies I can’t help but tell myself every time I see that negative pregnancy test.
I’m on This Journey Alone
It can be easy to feel isolated while you’re TTC, but don’t be afraid to open up to your girlfriends for support. There’s so much pressure to keep everything hush hush, but don’t neglect your support systems.
I’m not suggesting blanketing your social media with posts about your pregnancy journey unless opening up that dialogue is useful. But once I started to confide in my close friends, I was surprised by how many had similar experiences. We talked apps and ovulation kits and honestly it brought a bit of fun to what can be a tough experience.
I’ll Stop Testing Early Each Month
Ugh, early pregnancy testing. It’s such a tease and can be such a letdown. A lot of tests claim to be 99 percent effective, but in reality there are so many variables that can actually give you a false negative.
Do yourself (and wallet) a favor and wait until you’re actually late before testing. And for goodness sake, don’t keep boxes of tests under your sink (guilty as charged!). It’s too easy to tear through them each month.
Pregnancy Announcements Don’t Hurt
What’s the TTC version of the Amy Poehler quote “Good for her! Not for me.”?
Of course it’s exciting when someone in your life posts a bump pic or sonogram snap, but it’s ok to feel a little sad. Don’t feel guilty or beat yourself up over feeling a twinge of grief if your TTC journey hasn’t panned out the way you hoped.